• 1.23.Slide

    Overcoming Loneliness Post-Graduation

    Click on Kaycia's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Loneliness is a topic that some people might be hesitant to talk about because who wants to be lonely? It's not a good feeling, and for some it can be quite uncomfortable to express out loud to someone. This kind… Read More...
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    Ode to Autumn: Or, on falling leaves and failing friendships

    Click on Anne's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! New weather almost always summons a new wardrobe, but there’s something about fall that’s particularly best for closet revival, and not just because sweaters and coats are celebratory rewards to a summer of failed… Read More...
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    How to Maintain your Personality in your Relationships

    Click on Joli's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! They say that love blinds you… and I would say that is definitely true for me. When you finally stumble upon that person who you know is the one, it seems effortless to give up your entire life and dedicate… Read More...
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    My Year of Rebound Relationships and Finding Self Love

    Click on Brittany's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! In the year following my first serious relationship crumbling like a house of sand, in one year, almost to the day, I went through a string of rebound dates... I had been so used to having a partner, a go-to,… Read More...
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    How I Survived A Failed Marriage And Found Love Again

    Click on April's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! In 2005, my marriage ended. With the simple stroke of a pen, I lost my best friend of 13 years. Well, let’s be honest, nothing is ever that black and white, and certainly never that simple. I also happen to believe… Read More...
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    How to Raise Awareness and Stand Up Against Bullying in Your Community

    Click on Dylan's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! As a public school teacher of three years, having a passion for social justice and human rights, raising awareness and supporting efforts to combat bullying are incredibly important to me. One of the reasons I… Read More...
  • 11.9.Slide

    Surviving + Thriving: The bSmart Guide for Your First Year of College

    Click on Courtnie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! It’s November of your first year of college. You may already be partying, making great friends, and generally having a blast. Or, if you’re like me, it’s taking you a little longer to find yourself in this… Read More...
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    Date Rape: What It Is and How to Help

    Click on Laura's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! According to the U.S. Justice Department, one in four women will be raped before they graduate from college. One in four. Did it happen to me? To you? To your best friend? Your worst enemy? Your sister? Your… Read More...
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    10 Low-cost Date Ideas For You and Your Sweetheart this Fall

    Click on Jamie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! The crisp scent of fall is going to be upon us before we know it. But what fall date ideas should you do with your partner? Here are my ten low-cost ideas that can either be done from home or nearby in your local… Read More...
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    How I Turned Heartbreak into My Motivation

    Click on Emma's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Sometimes, in order to find the motivation to make the change you’ve been waiting for, some things that have seemed constant in your life for so long have to fall apart. Of course, I’m not suggesting that something… Read More...
  • 7.21.Slide

    Loving + Learning: Your Guide to Growing your Romantic Relationship

    Click on Courtnie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! 13 years. My husband, Patrick, and I have been together over 13 years. And almost 3 years ago, we finally got married. We met when I was a freshman in high school, and he was a senior. The story of how we met is… Read More...
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    Leadership Lessons from my Father(s)

    Click on Courtnie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! You know, I’m a lucky woman - despite the circumstances that led me here, I’ve had several very strong father figures in my life that have helped guide who I am today. I was blessed with a great dad, who has… Read More...
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    4 Tips to Navigate Your Post-Grad Friendships

    Click on Kayla's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! It’s graduation season, a time full of gowns, caps, and inspirational speeches. Though you’re no doubt excited to start a brand-new life (perhaps in a brand-new city!) you’re also probably nervous—your friends… Read More...
  • 5.19.Slide

    The bSmart Guide to Sorority Rush

    Click on Alex's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Being in a sorority is an amazing experience, but getting into one can be overwhelming and nerve-wracking. As well-meaning as it is when people say not to stress it, you can’t help but to worry a little throughout… Read More...
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    Community Campaign: Best Qualities in a Female-Empowered Friendship

    What are the best qualities in a female-empowered friendship? We asked and your fellow brilliant, bSmart ladies answered. Giving and receiving support, empowerment, and expressing appreciation were the common themes shared! Purchase Chaser Besties 4Eva #1 Tee here! Support Both with your time and… Read More...
  • 4.18.Slide

    We Stand For Love: On Loving Our Muslim Neighbors Despite A Country’s Fear

    Click on Amanda's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! ‘Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.’ – Martin Luther King Jr. On March 22, 2016, our world was yet again rocked with tragedy. In… Read More...
  • 4.15.Slide.KC

    I’ve Been Initiated Into The 'Long Distance Relationship' Club

    Click on Kamerin's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! ‘Be thankful that you have someone to love and someone who also loves you back.’ Just when I thought being in a long distance relationship would be tough, I stumbled upon the above quote from Lifehack.org’s 21… Read More...
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    Keeping Your Relationships Afloat: A How-To Guide For The Busy Woman

    Click on Alexis' picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! We’ve all said it before: ‘Listen, I’m so sorry, but I can’t make it! I hope you understand…’ And while, for the most part, friends and significant others do understand that responsibilities abound and schedules… Read More...
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    The 21st Century Woman on Love: To Date or Not To Date

    Click on Shannon's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! ‘Ugh, I HATE guys.' ‘You’re better than him. You deserve better.’ These are snippets from everyday conversations that I have with my close friends. And whether we like to admit it or not, there is a sense of… Read More...
  • 3.10.Slide

    The Power of a #GirlGang: Great Girls Make All the Difference

    Click on Alex's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I’ve always considered my friends to be an important part of my life. Whenever someone asks me what I like to do for fun, my immediate response is, ‘hang out with my friends.’ When I’m not with them, I'm constantly… Read More...
  • 3.4.Slide

    Squad Goals: The Newfound Emphasis on Having Strong Female Friendships

    Click on Dylan's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I’m sure it comes as no surprise to anyone that we live in a society where self-identified women are constantly bombarded with messages explaining how we should dress, look, eat, exercise, act, speak, and function,… Read More...
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    Continuing A Cause: Teen Dating Violence Awareness

    Click on Anna's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! With all of the excitement that teenage relationships inspire, it can be easy to forget the sobering fact that one in three teens in the United States will experience physical, sexual or emotional abuse at the hands… Read More...
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    Oscars' Call to Action: It's On Us

    Click on Gabriella's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Last night Lady Gaga moved the world with her powerful and emotional performance of her Oscar nominated song ‘Til It Happens to You.’ The song was co-written with Diane Warren for The Hunting Ground, a… Read More...
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    Beat The Valentine's Day Blues With Your Own Galentine's Day Gathering

    Click on Anna's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! In an era of commercialization and social media, Valentine’s Day can be almost impossible to ignore. It can be easy to feel a little blue on a day that's meant to be all about love. A recent trend among both singles… Read More...
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    Take Action + Receive Support During Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

    Click on Dylan's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! As a teacher, I'm also a mandated reporter, which means any violence-related information shared with me about a student and his or her boyfriend/girlfriend, his or her parents, or friends falls under the realm of… Read More...
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    Modern Dating and the Evolution of Finding Love

    Click on Arifa's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Love, a dazzling and elusive force, grasps all of us in mysterious ways. As a little girl, I was never one to fantasize about fairy-tale endings or romanticize the idea of a prince saving me; it seemed so… Read More...
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    5 "Thank You’s" Your Ex Deserves to Hear

    Click on Kendra's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Let me take a poll (virtual, of course): how many of you still get a little peeved when your ex’s name is brought up in casual conversation? You’re not alone. It wasn’t until a few months ago that I could actually… Read More...
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    Striking the Balance Between Independence and Strong Relationships

    Click on Rena's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! We’ve made great strides toward gender equality in the last several decades, but there’s certainly more work to be done. As a result of the ongoing struggle for equal recognition, many women feel the need to… Read More...
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    Growing Up Gay: Being Queer and Feminine

    Click on Mollie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Growing up, I lived a sheltered life. I’m the oldest of four children and I have parents who would do anything to protect me. I’m very lucky. Even though I hate to admit it, this shielding had its drawbacks. When… Read More...
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    On Learning to Practice Patience and Become Present

    Click on Kellie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Many people will tell you that patience is a virtue. I never understood what that meant until now. I had never experienced what it felt like to physically wait for something good to happen. It’s hard not to get… Read More...
  • One in Four: The Facts About Sexual Assault on College Campuses

    Click on Mollie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I tend to think of myself as the typical female college student. I’m 20, starting my junior year at Northwestern University, I’m in a sorority and I double major in European history and journalism. Unfortunately,… Read More...
  • 4 Ways to Be Fun, Flirty, and Thriving Without Alcohol

    Click on Kellie's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! It’s a common belief amongst college women that in order to be fun and flirty, alcohol is the answer. Ladies, I can tell you right now that this is not that case! Alcohol is actually the enemy. Yes, a few drinks… Read More...
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    My Bumble Boy: What I Learned from Swiping Right

    Click on Caitlin's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I never dreamed I would meet a boy online. I didn't expect to download a dating app at all, let alone use it. ‘When you find love on Bumble,’ I had said to a friend, ‘let me know.’ As time went on, it seemed as… Read More...
  • 2 Digital Dating Lessons to Make the Most of Your Match

    Click on Amanda's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! If I've learnd anything as a single woman in the last few years, it’s that dating is never going to be simple. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, getting to know that person, getting to the point where you… Read More...
  • 10 Must-Follow Pinterest Boards for Wedding Inspiration

    Click on Lauren's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! As a plan-oriented kinda girl, it’s no surprise that I’ve been mapping out my wedding since age eight. Eleven years later and single as ever, a wedding is not on the horizon for me. But that can’t stop me from… Read More...
  • Situationships: The Purgatory of Relationships

    Click on AJ's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I was recently talking to a dear friend about a date she went on and how she was quite optimistic that it may be her next serious relationship. She shared details about everything from picking out the right outfit to… Read More...
  • Are You Attracted To The Bad Boy?

    Click on AJ's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! On a lazy Saturday afternoon I watched an episode of 'Everybody Hates Chris' that caused me to reflect on why women are sometimes attracted to the 'bad boy.' In the episode, Chris is trying to get the attention of one… Read More...
  • Mosaic Heart: Finding the Beauty in Brokenness

    Click on Polly's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I was the unfortunate recipient of some really, god-awful advice when I was a wee middle schooler. It was a Friday afternoon and I was, as per usual, in love with the idea of love. I hung on every word my language… Read More...
  • Old Fashioned Dating In a Polyamorous Society

    Click on Kamerin's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I never looked at a lunch date the same way again. I’m probably being dramatic, but it was an eye opener. At my second week at Leo Burnett, an advertising agency where I work, me and some of the lovely ladies… Read More...
  • 7 Things My College Best Friend Taught Me About Love

    Click on Amina's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! There are many things in this world you can prepare for, and in my experience, finding your best friend most certainly is NOT one of them. Everything short of a giant meteor the size of Texas approaching Earth’s… Read More...
  • How To Identify And When To End A Situationship

    This post is published in collaboration with Quarterlette.com, an online magazine for quarter-life women. Their mission is to support, guide and inspire women in their twenties and thirties through relatable, first-person essays that are submitted by women who want to share their experiences and… Read More...
  • Dating in a Non-Existent Pool

    Click on Kat's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! 'I choose to be single.' It’s a valid statement — anyone who tells you differently is basing their self-worth on the relationships they have. However…sometimes we don’t choose to be single. Sometimes we hardly have a… Read More...
  • 5 Ways to Turn Heartache into Strength

    Click on Emily's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! It seems as though every girl has experienced the gut-wrenching, despair-filled feeling you get at the dissolution of a relationship. Throughout my dating life, I too, have had my fair share of heartache and felt… Read More...
  • If You Need To Find The BIG 'O'…You Better Call Your B.O.B

    Click on AJ's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! On the drive home the other day I was listening to Raheem DeVaughn sing his hit song ‘B.O.B’ (Battery Operated Boyfriend). As Raheem sang about all of the things a B.O.B can’t do, (‘a B.O.B can’t kiss you or rub your… Read More...
  • How to Find Love - in Yourself

    Click on Julia's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! You’ve heard it before - you can’t love someone until you love yourself. But let’s be honest, figuring out how to find love is a lot easier than learning how to love yourself. For many of us, being single means… Read More...
  • Love Advice: The Recipe of Relationships

    Click on Megan's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I love baking. Baking is exact, measured, timed. Usually there’s just one way to follow a baking recipe. Cooking? Not so much. Cooking is different. There’s a little of this, a little of that - you can add a… Read More...
  • What Are Your Top 5? Dating Advice for Women #bsmart

    What Are Your Top 5? Dating Advice for Women

    Click on AJ's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I recently wrote about the dangers of having expectations that are too high when looking for a partner. The flip side of this argument is that it’s important to consider having some sort of guide or roadmap to finding… Read More...
  • The Beauty of Both Worlds: Dating Tips for the Independent Woman

    Click on Amina's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Yes, it’s true. Far too often “love” is characterized as a kind of sacrilegious attack on female independence—a symbiotic trade of sorts. So in a world that conceptualizes a working wife as an absent wife, where… Read More...
  • Are Your Expectations Too High? Dating Advice for Women #bsmart

    Are Your Expectations Too High? Dating Advice for Women

    Click on AJ's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I was watching an old episode of Oprah where she was helping a 41-year-old woman find a date. The woman was attractive, successful, without children and had never been married. During the course of the show, Oprah… Read More...
  • First Date Advice for the Independent, Confident Woman #bsmart

    First Date Advice for the Independent, Confident Woman

    Click on Beth's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! My father’s favorite saying whenever my sisters or I do something of which he is especially proud is: “My one goal in life was to raise three independent, strong-willed, confident women . . . so how the heck did I… Read More...
  • How To Find A Date: Smart Tips for Smart Ladies! #bsmart

    How To Find A Date: Smart Tips for Smart Ladies!

    Click on Adedayo's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Writing about love is something I'm still learning to spread my wings around. I love to read Cosmopolitan's funny love stories and love advice, but is it ok for me to write that I'm single, in my twenty's and… Read More...
  • 3 Signs to Know if He's the One #bsmart

    3 Signs to Know if He's the One

    Click on Emily's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! “I like him, he's a great guy and we have fun together, but I just don't know if he's the one...” How many times have you heard a distraught girlfriend say this? Maybe you've said the same thing before, I know I… Read More...
  • Love Advice For Your Next Crush

    Love Advice For Your Next Crush

    Click on Emma's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! What’s the first thing you think of when your mind wanders? You know, when you’re sitting at your desk staring at a blank screen because you said you’d be productive, but really your mind is far away and eventually… Read More...
  • Love Advice For Making Long Distance Work

    Click on Caroline's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! You’re in a big, bad mama-jama long distance relationship and, let’s be honest, it’s not ideal. The tangible portion of your relationship is scattered with visits to each other’s respective cities and while you… Read More...
  • Love Advice on Communication, Expression, Bravery, and Friendship

    Click on Emma's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! A little friendly love advice on communication, expression, bravery, and friendship told through poetry: Image via Texting is not conversation. My mood has been a steady biorhythm For the past six months In which… Read More...
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    4 Ways to Show Your Parents You Love Them

    Click on Kaelyn's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! My parents and I are biffles. I really mean that. For example, my mom was the first person I told when I got my nose pierced in college. (Granted, she wouldn’t talk to me for a week and cut off my grocery money… Read More...
  • 10 Signs of a Toxic Relationship #bSmartGuide

    10 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

    Click on Adedayo's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! From my experience working in the mental health field for more than three years, I’ve had the opportunity to work with many women who were in unhealthy relationships. And so writing about the subject of “toxic… Read More...
  • 7 Dating Tips For Finding True Love (If You Haven’t Already…) #bSmartguide

    7 Dating Tips For Finding True Love (If You Haven’t Already…)

    Click on Christine's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! 1. Stop dating people you don't have chemistry with. Dating and finding true love have a weird momentum about them. If it's good, it's like running downhill, where you cease to control any or all of your… Read More...
  • How to Find Love: Loving Others Begins With Loving Yourself

    Click on Leesa's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Where is the love? "Love your neighbor as you love yourself,” is how the sacred text goes, or, “Treat others how you want to be treated.” Our familiar golden rules are reminders of the kind of behavior to which we… Read More...
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    Love Advice When Dating in New York (Which sometimes feels like another planet)

    Click on Sara's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Dating can sometimes feel like you’re interacting with people from a totally different planet. On that note, my friends and I will jokingly refer to most New York men as “aliens.” It’s our umbrella term for any man… Read More...
  • 3 Beneficial Bits of Love Advice to Help Your Relationship Grow #bSmartGuide

    3 Beneficial Bits of Love Advice to Help Your Relationship Grow

    Click on Emily's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Now that I’m engaged, I’ve learned that relationships are like daisies. They require lots of tender-loving-care in order for them to sprout, grow and eventually bloom. The better care you show a daisy, the stronger… Read More...
  • Love Advice from Someone Who’s Never Been in Love #bsmartguide

    Love Advice from Someone Who’s Never Been in Love

    Click on Kaelyn's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! I’ve never been in love. Well. Maybe that’s not true. I think I may have been. But what I mean to say is I’ve never uttered those beautiful, ominous, synergistic three words — “I love you” — to anyone of the male… Read More...
  • How to Find Love in a Frozen Season #bSmartGuide

    How to Find Love in a Frozen Season

    Click on Sara's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! The cool winter airs whips across your face, and you ask yourself, “When will it be summer?” The fact is a lot of us hate winter. And a lot of us love it. And many of us just prefer not putting on two pairs of pants… Read More...
  • What My Best Friend Taught Me About How to Find Love

    What My Best Friend Taught Me About How to Find Love

    Click on Caroline's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! There are a few types of love in the world. There’s the type that is expressed on Valentines Day with long-stemmed red roses and a decadent box of chocolate-covered strawberries. There’s the love when two good… Read More...
  • How to Find Love on V-Day: 4 Date Ideas for Sexy and Single or Happy and In Love

    How to Find Love on V-Day: 4 Date Ideas for Sexy and Single or Happy and In Love

    Click on Kim's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! In addition to the usual stress and anxiety that comes with getting a weekend reservation at any restaurant worth eating at in New York City, the fact that Valentine’s Day will be on a Friday this year will makes the… Read More...
  • No More Tissues for Your Relationship Issues

    No More Tissues for Your Relationship Issues

    Click on Emily's picture to friend her, message her, or read more of her blog posts! Have you ever had to communicate with someone from a foreign country and realized that speaking two different languages can be frustrating? Sometimes relationship issues can feel the same way. It is very possible… Read More...
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    Are you Rising in Love or Just Falling in Love?

    Falling in Love I thought it might be worth sharing some relationship advice dispensed from my sweet mother about 9 years ago about falling in love. One simple disclaimer before we begin: I am NOT a relationship expert. I do NOT have much experience. BUT, when it comes to relationship advice, my… Read More...
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    Is He the One?

    'The One' When it comes to relationships, most women like to cut to the chase. Halfway through the second date it's not uncommon to start asking, "Is he the one?" I know that in most instances this question isn't resolved that quickly, but seriously, how will you know when he is 'the one?' As far… Read More...
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    Post-It to Improve Your Relationship Issues

    Having Relationship Issues? Advice given by relationship experts for discovering compatibility and deepening the relationship often suggest that couples discuss future goals, personal and relational, to see if similarities in wants and desires exist. While crucial relationship advice, discussing… Read More...
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    Wondering How to Be Confident? Get Honest With Yourself

    How to Be Confident It's one of the hardest things to accomplish. Honesty. Especially with ourselves. It's much easier to believe the hype...that's the stuff we've created around ourselves in order to present the “us” we want others to see. Whether its the clothes, the hair, the handbag, or the man… Read More...
  • The Business of...Dying

    Businesses thrive and survive by making money. Meeting financial projections and turning a profit are the cornerstones on which successful businesses are built. But, what happens when you’re in the business of death? How do you balance the needs of your company with the needs of families who are… Read More...
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    Trying to Find a Date? Treat it Like a Job Search

    Find a Job - Find a Date You should treat dating like a job search. Just as you would put out as many feelers and inquiries as you can for a possible job, do the same for a potenial partner. The more you learn about other 'industries' and what is required on a day-to-day basis working at that… Read More...
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    Tips for Raising A Child

    Raising a Child Tip 1: Be Prepared Having children is a gift in theory, but a sacrifice in reality. Raising a child will cost you emotional energy and money. The right time to have children is when you have the emotional strength to fully care for another human and the money to pay for the physical… Read More...
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    Wondering Where to Find Love?

    Love Yourself First To Find Love The number one rule when looking for where to find love is to first love yourself. If you don't like who you are, then why would someone else? If you want someone to love you, then you have to ask yourself: Who am I? Do I like myself? What about myself do I not… Read More...
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    5 Relationship Tips for Finding Love

    If it seems like too much trouble right off the bat, it probably is. Every couple has their issues, but if you’ve just started dating someone and it’s already difficult or frustrating, if they’re jealous of your roommate and insisting you call every half-hour, if you have nothing to talk about or… Read More...
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    Do You Have Boundaries in Your Relationships?

    Do you have boundaries? I have a book you have to read. Ok, the very fact I'm telling you you must read this book might go against its premise, but I'll risk it. YOU HAVE TO READ THIS BOOK. Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John… Read More...
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    Do You Want to Be Happy in Your Relationships?

    Advice About Love The Book of John, in the New Testament, contains a story of Jesus interacting with a man who had been sick for 38 years and was laying by a pool known for miraculous cures. Jesus looks at him and asks "Do you want to get well?" A strange question with a seemingly obvious answer.… Read More...
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    Afraid to Bring up Family and Values?

    Communicate in Your Relationship You might be wondering, "Can I bring up family and values without scaring off my boyfriend?" Better to scare off your boyfriend than your husband. You should discuss your values regarding family, money, religion, raising children, and marital roles before a trip to… Read More...
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    Relationship Issue With Being Used?

    My Advice About Love In my opinion, not being used comes down to knowing your worth and setting some boundaries before a significant other is even in the picture. The boundaries part is simpler than the worth part (maybe not simple, but simpler) when it comes to relationship issues. Sit down and… Read More...
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    Be Careful When Asking for Advice

    Advice About Love Be careful from whom you seek advice....Sometimes the people quickest to give advice and most articulate in their wisdom may actually not have the best answers. When looking for relationship advice, look for a relationship you admire. Look for a couple that respects each other,… Read More...
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    Making New Friends & Not Sure Who to Trust?

    Making New Friends and Wondering Who to Trust? Degrees of closeness among friends can be compared to the rings of a tree—with you in the center. In your innermost circle, it’s possible to have 2 or 3 very good friends. The next innermost ring can be a bit larger with maybe 5 or 6 close friends, and… Read More...
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    Not Enough Time for Your Relationship?

    You may need to sacrifice something. (I know: CRINGE). Time, so far (I’m hopeful), is not infinite. I wish I could ingest a certain amount of yeast and increase the number of hours in a particular day. It’s just not going to happen though. You may need to sacrifice something to be happy in a… Read More...
  • Poem: Widow’s Walk

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    Find True Love Without Unrealistic Expectations

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    Dating advice for Dating Multiple Men

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    Fighting Fair With Your Relationship Issues?

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    How Can I Find Love in My Relationship?

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    Relationship Advice for Relational Rut

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    Relationship Tips for Misconceptions About Gay Relationships

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    How to Make and Have Close Friends

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    Learn the 5 Love Languages to Keep Your Love Tank Full

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    Looking For Where to Find Love?

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    Ready to Go from Dating to Marriage?

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    Trying to Help Friends Through a Crisis

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    Trouble Moving On From a Relationship?

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