On the drive home the other day I was listening to Raheem DeVaughn sing his hit song ‘B.O.B’ (Battery Operated Boyfriend).  As Raheem sang about all of the things a B.O.B can’t do, (‘a B.O.B can’t kiss you or rub your thighs…’) I couldn't help but think about all of the things a B.O.B can do.

Even in the 21st century women, unfortunately, are still trying to figure out how to have better sex.  According to Google Adwords, there were over 15,000 searches last month for relationship tips on having better sex.

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If you’re a virgin to the B.O.B it may seem a little embarrassing, intimidating or even a little desperate to add some additional hardware to your sex life.  However, after careful thought and conversation with my female friends, I’ve found that a B.O.B is not just the single woman's savior but also a relationship doctor.  In a recent Essence Magazine survey 70% of women have faked an orgasm and only 35% of women will have an orgasm through intercourse alone according to Dr. Phil McGraw.  No wonder we’re not in the mood as much as men - if you can't get to the Big ‘O’ what's the point of opening up the gate? 

It makes you wonder about the blessed 35% group of women and why they’re the lucky ones?  In a search to find more relationship tips for better sex I sat down with one of these lucky women to find out why she’s having better sex.  My friend, Jessica, has the sex drive of a man, and truly enjoys intercourse with her husband.  But, even though he's in tune to her body, he is not the key to her guaranteed satisfaction.  The answer lies in the fact that SHE is in tune with her body - something she learned with the assistance of a B.O.B.

Yes, ladies I will admit we can't leave everything up to our mate.  We actually have to take some time and learn about our body.  Trust me, your man knows his body very well, he's been getting acquainted with it for many years now.  When your man was a young boy and wanted to explore his body to see what it did and why, he was given a pass, because he was a boy.  However, young girls were not given the same pass.

The next time your man is out for the night, make it a night in for YOU.  Light some candles, pick up a B.O.B and explore.  Every woman is different and we have so many demands we already put on our partners, it would be helpful if we could give them the map to our body because we have already discovered the pot of gold ourselves and know how to get to there.  Now, once your man can find your Big ‘O’ blindfolded, maybe he will be open to a threesome invitation - which can include you, him and your B.O.B!

 

About AJ Williams, The Single Black Chick: Digital Editor/Social Media Manager/Columnist/Writer for the Michigan Chronicle and former Relationship & Dating columnist for FRONTPAGE Detroit. AJ is the Creator and Blogger-in-Chief at SingleBlackChick.com, a personal blog/website where AJ shares her candid take on relationships, life and love using her dating life as a platform to empowering black women to embrace their skin, sexuality, soul and personal journey.  

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