Laura Taylor

Take a moment to remember the last time you wanted to take a leap of faith and do something way out of your comfort zone - whether it be applying to your dream college, going for your dream position at the company you’ve always wanted to work for, or even sending a text to that person that’s been on your mind since your relationship ended.


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There’s a reason you didn’t just do these things immediately.  There’s a reason, for example, it took you a whole year to consider texting an ex you still have feelings for in hopes of finding closure.

The fear of rejection, in short, tells us that we aren’t good enough.  We aren’t good enough to get into a college we’ve spent years working towards meet the standards of the job we’re applying for or deserve being given a second chance.  These preconceived notions of failure give us one feeling: that we shouldn’t even try.

In 2001, the Surgeon General of the United States issued a report stating that rejection was of a greater risk for adolescent violence than drugs, poverty, or gang membership. For many adolescents, rejection happens at a very pivotal stage of development.  We are learning how to adapt in a society full of challenges; any emotional setbacks can change the way that we move into our future.  That feeling of hurt, and often aggression, that comes after being rejected can be prevented if you know how much you are valued by the people who matter.

The next time you want to take a chance on something out of your comfort zone, consider these three things you can do to ensure you have built up impact for the blow if you get rejected.

Remember you’re loved by the most important people, and you shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anyone to get that love.  

The best thing you can do for yourself before stepping outside of your comfort zone is surrounding yourself with people who love and care about you, regardless of your past successes or failures.   You just have to trust that these people will stay with you and continue to support you, even long after the decision is made.

When you’re ready to do that crazy, out of your comfort zone thing, find several activities to apply yourself to so your chances of being successful increase.  In turn, you will be less worried about the negative outcomes of said decision.

Don’t just apply for one position; apply for six.  Knowing that you have increased chance of getting that position will help your mind refocus on the task at hand.  

The world will always keep spinning.  If you have to face rejection, tell yourself over and over again this means there’s something better out there for you.

You aren’t less of a person because a company decided you weren’t the best candidate for their position.  This means there’s something out there designed specifically for you.  If you had ended up with the first thing you went for, you wouldn’t have found something that could match your potential.

So, go out of your comfort zone and do something greater than what you previously thought you could.  The experience will only make you stronger, regardless of the outcome.


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