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Kimberly Boniello founder of Designing Your Life™ has been life coaching friends and family in New York City for the last two years.  Using visualization and strategic planning, she helps her clients create the changes they want in every aspect of their life.  With a focus on nutrition, fitness, and looking towards the future, she will help turn your ideas into actions to realize your goals!
Click here to ask Kim your life questions or read her advice to other members!  You can also email your question to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. to ask your question anonymously!

Life Guide 

'Is it weird that I want to hear all about your problems?'  I have spent my life asking this question to friends and family.  Since I can remember, I have been fascinated by people’s relationships and their perception of their relationships.  When I listen to someone retell a conversation with a friend or argument with their boyfriend, I hear what they say, and at the same time, I hear what really happened and how they feel about what happened.  People usually share the situation exactly as they perceive it.  However, I've always been able to pick up on an undercurrent of truth that  the person might not be aware of.   This allows me to share a new perspective that they couldn’t see before and open a number of possibilities for their lives and relationships. 

What is your greatest accomplishment?

My greatest accomplishment in my life professionally has been identifying my true calling as a life-coach and as someone who can really change women’s lives.  It has given me such purpose and momentum in my life, and I believe that those qualities are transcendent. 
What advice would you give to your younger self?

I am a firm believer that we are writing and rewriting our story every single day. Granted, it's only in hindsight that we can look back and make sense of any of it, we have to have faith in ourselves that we will eventually be looking back without any regrets.  Also, I would tell myself that I am thin and beautiful!  For some reason our beauty is something we only recognize in hindsight.
What are your greatest attributes?

I am extremely intuitive, and this quality has helped me in so many different areas of my life.  I have a keen sense of what makes people “tick” and this allows me to both help others with their lives through Designing Your Life, and it helps me to develop strong relationships of my own. 
Life Guide: Life Coach Kim Boniello Shares Her Advice About Love - bSmart!

If you could write the rest of your story, what would the next 5 years entail?

I am passionate about helping women design the lives that they thought only existed in their dreams.  In the next 5 years I hope that my business will continue to grow and expand.  My goal is to reach more women and I think that I will be able to achieve that by organizing group life-coaching sessions that my clients will attend with their friends and family so that I will be able to reach more women.  Personally, I think a wedding and maybe a child in the next 5 years could be on the docket!
Life Guide: Life Coach Kim Boniello Shares Her Advice About Love - bSmart!

Advice about Love 

How have you been able to Design Your Life?

People often look at me and think I have it all and my life has been easy.  I have had my fair share of challenges that have made me the woman I am today and able to help women design the life they want for themselves.  My father became sick with Parkinson’s disease when I was three years old.  It was agonizing to watch such a wonderful man deteriorate the way that he did.  His “absence” left me with the issues a lot of young women face who lack a strong male figure during their formidable years.  
By the time I was 20 I had been in several bad relationships that were less than worthy of my time and love.  I was cheated on and generally mistreated and I allowed it because I was so desperate for attention from a man.  Just being a 'nice, normal guy' didn’t cut it for me because I was accustomed to having to fight for attention having spent years doing just that within my family dynamic.  I reached a turning point in one of my particularly bad relationships where I remember saying to myself, 'I am not going to let this pattern of dating define all of my future relationships anymore.'  That was the first step towards finding the man of my dreams.  I've been dating my boyfriend Matt for the last 5 years and he is everything I dreamed and deserve.

During that same turbulent period in my early twenties, I was also trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life in terms of my career.  I had degrees in both Education and Psychology and I had earned a Master’s Degree in Literacy Education, so the next logical step was to become a teacher.  However, trying to find a teaching position in the middle of one of the most difficult job markets in history posed a problem for me finding permanent employment.  I was able to spend time with friends and friends of friends helping them get clarity on their personal and professional goals utilizing my background in education and psychology when I finally realized it was my calling to help other women find their way out of the very same challenges I had faced.  It was amazing how many doors opened for me with that moment of clarity. 
What do you want all bSmart members to know about your story that would help them to bSmart too?

I want all bSmart members to know that happiness is not something that they should postpone for tomorrow…they need to design it today.  That’s what I was able to do when I discovered life-coaching.  Whatever their passion is, whatever their goals are, I can help them to identify a strategic plan to accomplish them so that they can be who they are MEANT TO BE. 
Life Guide: Life Coach Kim Boniello Shares Her Advice About Love - bSmart!



What is Life Coaching and how do you do that with Designing Your Life?

I guide my clients to formulate a strategic plan in order to figure out 1) What they truly want out of life and 2) How to get it!  I use visualization and strategic planning to help my clients create the changes they want in every aspect of their life.  I focus on nutrition, fitness, and looking towards the future by providing follow-up customized exercises for their thoughts, goals, relationships, and physical wellbeing.  I help my clients expand their view of themselves through recognizing their true potential and defining an action plan that will transform their potential into success.  Life-coaching is not counseling or therapy; it is advice on how to strategically plan your life in order to achieve your goals. 

 Life Guide: Life Coach Kim Boniello Shares Her Advice About Love - bSmart!


An Example of Kim's Strategic Planning for Her Clients



An Example of Kim's Follow-Up Exercise for Her Clients 



  An Example of Kim's Follow-Up Exercise for Her Clients 



  An Example of Kim's Encouragement She Sends to Clients 



Who is life coaching for?
I work with women who want clarity with their goals and to create actionable steps to help them achieve those goals.  Life coaching is meant to help you figure out what you want and how to get there.  I've helped my clients become clear on their intentions with love, friendship, career, nutrition, fitness, and style.  A unique feature I offer is that I will attend a fitness class of your choice or from my recommendation with you.  Feeling confident about yourself and your fitness can give you a clear mind and motivation to start creating an action plan for all of your goals!
There is tremendous value in talking to someone who has gone through the same things you are trying to navigate.  I have had clients say it's a little easier sharing their relationship or career challenges and goals with someone who is like them, but yet in a professional dynamic so that I can offer support or guidance that they might not receive from a friend.  I have faced many of the same challenges my clients are struggling with and I am proof that they too can design the life they want!



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Inspirational quotes provided by Kim Boniello on behalf of Designing Your Life™ 

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